Not only can you help your partner effectively manage these natural urges through counsel, but you can also create healthy alternatives in the event that the desire is too strong to curb.Betrayal, not compromise, is the biggest offense in any relationship, but if you don’t create an environment of open communication, you leave your partner to their own devices and vices.
I strongly believe that keeping an open dialogue with your partner about their temptations, desires and natural drives is very important.If you fall for someone who is taken and they feel the same, demand that they open up their relationship—otherwise, you won’t be a part of it.Do not enter into any situation hoping for change; rather, create the change and then enter.So, I suggest some new rules that crush the fantasy in order to get to the heart of our human reality: Women who engage with married men: Don’t be anyone’s dirty secret.If you prefer to date those who are attached to keep your own involvement at arm’s length, then you should have no qualm with the wife being aware of your intentions.Some prefer the mistress-relationship-model, since it provides them with the fun side of companionship minus any of the traditional obligations of partnership.
In short, there will continue to be married men who find themselves seeking new intimate experiences and there will continue to be women who are interested in engaging with married men.
Encourage opacity and know that it is possible to create a healthy arrangement, as opposed to a devious, secretive relationship.
Men who seek affairs: If you are not cut out for the monogamous model, do not deceive anyone into believing you are.
Of course, you;re allowed to change, but you must communicate this change with your partner.
Desiring new experiences is understandable, while concealing this desire and act from your partner is not. You don’t have to hide your “dirty magazines” under the bed anymore.
I often get emails from women involved with a married man or from men who are engaged in an affair that usually center around one question: "Am I a terrible person for doing this?