Trust your gut in dating
I want to know where you stand on the whole “staying friends with your ex” thing. We’ve both been loving, attentive, kind and considerate.
My wife travels for a living and I can recall at least two times when she wouldn’t kiss her sick husband because it might jeopardize her health before a trip.This is paranoid thinking and it serves you no practical purpose.Your boyfriend has only lost interest in you if he shows no affection when you’re both healthy, not when you’re both sick. Next, you “made the mistake of looking at his text message,” and then “you made the mistake of scrolling back and reading the conversation” and then you made the mistake of bringing this whole thing up with him and then you made the mistake of thinking that it’s inappropriate for ex’s to be friends…How selfish would it be for my need for affection to outweigh my wife’s need to stay healthy?How insecure would I have to be to think that my wife’s act of self-preservation was somehow an insult to me?Thanks, Emily Dear Emily, Yeah, you probably asked the wrong guy.
I think you are particularly sensitive to your own needs and feelings and somewhat clueless about the needs and feelings of your boyfriend.
I could go on, but this is enough of a run-on sentence already. The only thing that jealousy indicates is how insecure you are. If you have a man that’s untrustworthy, then he shouldn’t be your boyfriend.
If he’s your boyfriend, then you have no choice but to trust him completely.
Good men and women stay in touch with their exes because their exes are kind people with whom they share a lot of history.
What you forget when you’re jealous of the ex is that there’s a REASON they broke up.
By the way, I do trust my boyfriend, but I find it almost an insult to me, or to our relationship, that he would still be in touch with her.